Pressure towards an outcome you don’t want never feels good. When it comes from someone close to you, it feels even worse. If your partner is pressuring you to have an abortion, it’s important to remember that the decision is yours. No one else has the right to make it for you.
At Care Net, we provide a safe, confidential space where you can process your feelings, learn about your options, and get the support you need—without pressure.
Understanding Your Right to Choose
While your partner may have opinions shaped by personal circumstances, fears, or financial concerns, you are the one who will live with the outcome. Taking time to reflect on what you truly want can help you feel more confident in your decision. Ask yourself: Which choice aligns with my goals, values, and future?
It’s okay to pause before making a decision. Giving yourself space to think ensures you are making the choice that is right for you–both now and in the future.
Setting Boundaries With Your Partner
It can be challenging to stand firm if your partner is insistent, but setting boundaries is a healthy and necessary step. You might respond with, “I hear what you’re saying and value your input, but I need time to think through this on my own.” This approach communicates respect while also affirming your needs.
If conversations become too overwhelming, taking a step back for a time can help protect your emotional well-being. Choices made in high-stress situations often don’t reflect what you truly want.
If pressure turns into threats or control, this can cross the line into coercion. No one should use manipulation or intimidation to influence such a personal decision. If you ever feel unsafe, you can contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 for confidential and immediate support.
Exploring Your Options
You deserve the freedom to explore all your options—parenting, adoption, or abortion—without pressure. At Care Net, our trained advocates are here to guide you through each option, ensuring you understand what’s involved. We’ll provide you with information in a compassionate, judgment-free environment, allowing you to make a decision based on your desires, not pressure from a partner.
Schedule your free, confidential appointment today to meet with someone who will listen, answer your questions, and support you as you consider your next steps.
FAQ
What if my partner threatens to leave if I don’t have an abortion?
Threats are a form of emotional coercion and are not acceptable in a healthy relationship. You deserve support, not ultimatums.
Can my partner legally make me have an abortion?
No. The decision to continue or end a pregnancy belongs to you alone. Your partner cannot force you to have an abortion.
What can I do to stay calm when I feel stressed?
Step away from difficult conversations when needed, talk with a trusted friend or family member, and seek support from a counselor or advocate who can help you process your emotions.
Does Care Net provide abortions?
No. We do not perform or refer for abortions. Our mission is to provide free services, accurate information, and a supportive environment where you can make informed decisions without pressure.